Sometimes the person you think you know really well and have confidence in, can shock you by leaving without warning, and for no reason you can see. It happens, it is shocking, and difficult to come to terms with.
It leaves a trail of mental playbacks and rewinds, questions you keep asking yourself over and over about how it happened and why. Perhaps your ex boyfriend can't explain it either. Maybe he does not know.
Breakups happen, that is a fact. We humans are often bound up in our emotional lives, and we change with time and circumstances as well. Equally because we are human we mistakenly believe that human behaviour can be explained rationally. This is not true. Men and women can behave impulsively, and because this happens peoples lives can change direction suddenly.
The difficulty, and the pain, comes from the one who has not acted impulsively, and who wants to know why this has happened. If your ex boyfriend has left you for no reason that you can understand, your first response after he has gone, understandably would be to try and get him back.
But what if he won't talk to you and tell you why he has left? How do you react? You might try to contact him and ask for an explanation, then see what happens. If he does not want to contact you, how long do you carry on trying to get him to come back to you? These are not easy answers, and no one has the correct answer either.
You could try different tactics to make him notice you. For example, make him jealous, or ignore him when you see him out and about. Or you could try and make friends with one of his friends or someone you know he does not like. Using these tricks usually brings some kind of a response, but these strategies are not for everyone.
After a lot of soul searching, and if you are sure you want him back, the best approach to get your boyfriend to come back to you is to be open and honest with yourself and with him. Be direct. Get in touch, either by text, phone or whatever else you like. Ask him why he has left you, and if there is any prospect of the two of you getting back together.
Tell him you want him back. Do not be afraid of rejection. Be prepared for that to happen. This approach is bold and courageous, but at least you will know, in your heart, what action to take next.
